The 5 Most Attractive Body Language Skills

You may be asking yourself what are the 5 most attractive body language skills? What is considered attractive body language, and do you have it? How do you use these skills to communicate with him and others?

Body language is the nonverbal signals and cues we use to communicate with others. We use posture, facial expressions, eye movements, gestures and other physical movements to express our emotions, attitudes and/or intentions whether it’s conscious or subconsciously. The way you move, hold yourself, and respond to others often speaks louder than anything you say. In fact, body language makes up a huge part of first impressions-and the best part is-that you can fix it immediately.

But how is the communication with your partner or the person of interest? Are they listening to you? What if you’re a woman looking to attract him but can’t quite find the words? Well, you need to learn other skills that attract his attention, right? Let’s start with catching his eye and others too.

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Table of Contents

• Maintain His Eye Contact
  • A Few Ways to Catch His Eye
• Head Tilt
  • Create the Coy and Mysterious Head Tilt
• Good Posture
  • Carry Yourself so He Notices
• Leaning In
  • Learn When to Give Hime a Sneak Peak
• Smile
  • Allow Your Smile to Let You Shine

Maintain His Eye Contact

Maintaining eye contact is not only important in every conversation, but also one of the first attractive body languages noticed. When you look people in the eye, you’re showing them you care and respect what they are talking about. Eye contact shows confidence, interest and sincerity-3 traits that instantly make you more attractive and appealing.

With my work experience, eye contact is absolutely necessary. I practiced by talking to myself in the mirror. It sounds silly, I know but try it for yourself. You’ll notice an increase in confidence with daily pep talks. What I noticed at work was the level of respect and the attention to details from employees increased. It was the understanding that I saw in their eyes when I talked to them.

So how does maintaining eye contact work for attracting him? Simple really, you start with getting his attention, so he looks at you. Walk in front of the person if you need to and make sure you are looking at his face. Ladies, you know that you’re beautiful and definitely worth his time to get the introduction. Better yet, keep his eyes only on you. Let me give you a couple examples I took to get him to look at me.

Examples of How to Catch and Maintain His Eye

Example 1-Not Feeling N-sync

Let’s say you’re in a relationship but it feels like you two aren’t on the same page anymore. It’s really frustrating. you’re hurt and feeling lonely. You ask him “What’s wrong?”, but he says, “It’s nothing.” Wrong answer and wrong timing. When you can agree to talk to each other without distractions you’re able to reconnect. It’s because when the two of you are able to look each other in the eye, communicate what you need from each other and work together can you recognize the bond you have. The sparks are flying once again!

Example 2-Mr. Right gets His First Date

Next example, you’re a single woman and wanting to find Mr. Right. You make sure he checks off on your list-enough to go on a first date, only to watch his eyes constantly wander around the room. Yes ladies, he is checking out the other hotties in the room. Right then, you know he isn’t Mr. Right for you and definitely not worth a second date. Hello, you are the only woman he should be looking at. Next!

Example 3-Must Know His Name

Now for the third example, let’s say you see a man that you desperately want to know his name. The problem is you don’t have enough nerve to walk up to him. Let alone ask for his name. Well, you should make sure you are looking your best with the nearest bathroom mirror or compact mirror you may be carrying in your purse.

Then start by making sure you’re within eyesight and when he looks toward you-smile! You could take it up a notch, walk around the area near him, look over your shoulder at him, perhaps tilt your head in a coy way, a few times before you stand tall and strut yourself right in front of his eyes. Once both of you are maintaining eye contact and possibly looking like smiling fools, he should introduce himself and get your number. If not, next!

There are so many ways to attract a new partner but maintaining eye contact is the first step. You both have to see the attraction. Ladies, if he is looking into your eyes, know he is interested in you and paying attention to what you’re saying. If his eyes are dilated, rest assured girl, he is totally interested in only you. Those are his feelings that he’s not verbally telling you aloud. Or perhaps he is.

Here are 3 tips to master maintaining eye contact:

• Keep a balanced gaze: to avoid staring, hold eye contact for 3-5 seconds before you briefly look away
• Match the mood of your setting: during intimate conversations keep a softer, warmer eye contact or playful chats keep a brighter, more alert look
• Engage both eyes: gently focus on the person’s eyes instead of darting around their face

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HEAD TILT

Did you know looking over your shoulder at him shows interest? It’s a form of head tilting. Yes, head titling is perceived as an attractive body language skill. It can accentuate your facial features and make you appear more approachable and engaging.

I like to think of head tilting as displaying your best face forward. You may or may not know what your best features are. Try finding them by looking in the mirror or taking some photos with different head tilts and pick your favorite. Make sure to always ask your bestie, for she should always be telling you the truth. Either way, I say tilt your head like you’re posing for the best selfie girl. Because you are looking fabulous!

Creating the Coy and Mysterious Head Tilt

Creating the coy and mysterious head tilt only works when you are aware of your best tilting angles. So, practice and become knowledgeable about your features and body. Find your 3 best angles (high, low and side or over views/angles) to get him to ask for your number. Let me explain the 3 best angles that have worked for me.

3 Head Tilts You Can Try Today

High view is when he is looking at you from above. You are going to tilt your head back only to the point your eyes cannot look up past his forehead then naturally tilt your head to the side and a bit down so now your eyes almost feel like they are going to roll backwards. This reflects your feminine demure, flirty yet mysterious like you’re hiding something from him because you got the cutest smile on your face. You’ll have him smiling and blushing in no time.

Low view is when he’s looking at you from below. This is a bit tricky because most people don’t like someone being able to look up their nose. Keep up on your hygiene and self-care. These are very important for everyone. When you find him literally looking up to you, don’t throw your face back and cut off your neck but rather elongate it and slowly lean in nearer to him with a smile and a slight tilt. He may fall to his knees because you’re showing him your flirty confidence.

The most famous over the shoulder/side view is thought of “The one that got away” or “The come and get me look”. I have used them for both. When your crush is walking by without a word but just a glance, keep that glance (smile intact) and watch him walk away but don’t turn your body towards him. You are not the one chasing him. Or you walk by him and look over your shoulder to see if you caught his eye. If not, his loss, right?

Here are 3 tips to help you master the head tilt:

• Lean slightly to one side: a small tilt communicates curiosity and empathy.
• Combine with a smile: this makes you seem warm and inviting.
• Avoid overdoing it: too much tilt or keeping a big smile on your face for too long can feel exaggerated and honestly can be creepy.

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GOOD POSTURE

Good posture is definitely an attractive body language skill that I notice immediately in a person. They are standing tall, shoulders back and down, chest out and face forward. It’s a confident poise that I find I’m drawn to, and confidence is one of the most universally appealing traits which naturally draws people to you without you having to say a word.

Do you know why having good posture is attractive? People subconsciously associate upright posture with competence, leadership and self-assurance. It enhances your physical appearance by lengthening your frame, making you look taller and thinner. You will naturally lift your chest up and your body aligns so your clothes fit better. You will seem youthful and healthy because you’re projecting energy and vitality with good posture.

Carry Yourself so He Notices You

How you carry yourself reflects how you see yourself. Good posture shows self-respect. While others are more likely to treat you with the same respect you show yourself. When you sit down with care instead of plopping down, you’re saying “I value myself and my presence here.” It also creates approachability when you look engaged, receptive, and friendly inviting others into your space instead of being closed off with a closed-off, hunched look.

As for myself, I stand tall because I am proud to be who I am. Yet, I struggle to sit upright at times. You don’t grow unless you’re working on something. Now, whether your posture is good or not, throw your shoulders back girl, stand tall and strut because you have what he wants.

Here are 3 tips to help you master good posture:

• Keep shoulders back and relaxed, stand as if a string is pulling your head gently upward: avoid slouching, it can signal insecurity or disinterest.
• Distribute weight evenly: keep your weight balanced on both feet while standing.
• Engage your core: this helps relieve stiffness and keeps your posture upright.

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LEANING IN

One of the best attractive body language skills you can do is the flirtatious leaning in towards him. Leaning forward or towards him shows a willingness to connect on a deeper level of intimacy and your interest in what he’s saying or doing. Most of us have used this skill at least once, during a meal, movie, game, etc. It’s almost an instinctive reaction to the people you like.

When you like people you treat them with respect so be mindful of their personal boundaries when you lean in towards someone. You can do this in multiple ways just sitting in a chair near him. You don’t even have to get up! Think for a second about how intriguing and interesting you’re looking to him. You’ve maintained eye contact while giving a little head tilt, then you sat with good posture, but he notices the way you are leaning your body in towards him. He will want to learn more about you, and you’ll notice him leaning in towards you now. Great! You have caught his attention, lean in and flirt!

Learn When to Give Him a Sneak Peak

Yes, you know it’s easy to get a man to notice you if you’re showing skin. Skin is definitely fun way to get his attention but knowing when he is allowed to see it is up to you and your values and standards. Just be aware that the earlier you expose skin, the likely all he will focus on is getting in ed with you instead of getting to know you. The more skin you show, the more likely he will consider you a conquest and not wife material. You should allow time to get to know him before giving him access to your body but little teases after time is always a fun way to flirt.

Here are 3 tips to help you master the art of leaning in:

• Use during key moments: when the other person is sharing something personal or important, lean in.
• Balance with leaning back: give space when the conversation is lighter, this prevents the feeling of being too intense.
• Pair it with nodding: a small nod while leaning in shows active listening.

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SMILE

Nothing is more attractive and will get you noticed more than a smile. A genuine smile is a very attractive body language skill that immediately puts others at ease and is one of the fastest ways to break the ice without words when meeting someone new. It tells people “You’re safe with me.” therefore creating trust quickly.

Allow Your Smile to Let You Shine

When you smile you trigger positive emotional responses which creates a small emotional loop allowing others to associate you with feeling good. Have you noticed when you smile at someone else, they tend to smile back? This happens when you see a smile-it activates mirror neurons in the brain-meaning people often smile back without even realizing it.

Smiling indicates positivity and interest in what’s happening, making you appear more confident and appealing. He will gravitate toward you because you have a warm, trusting aura that is inviting. Kinda like a bug to light scenario.

Here are 3 tips to master the smile:

• Smile with your eyes (the “Duchenne” smile or smize (model term)): let your eyes crinkle to show authenticity.
• Let it be natural: smile when greeting someone, during shared laughter, or when you’re genuinely enjoying the moment.
• Practice in the mirror: this helps you see your most natural and confident smile.

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THE BEST 5 ATTRACTIVE BODY LANGUAGE SKILLS

Body language is nonverbal communication that includes maintaining eye contact, head tilting, good posture, leaning in and smiling. Learning how to use these skills daily will increase your awareness of how you communicate with others and vice versa. It will make you feel and look more attractive and confident. So, try the best 5 attractive body language skills for yourself and attract him and others you want in your circle.

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